Teens love trying out a wide range of values and then seeing how the people around them respond. This is an essential part of teen self-concept building and is very developmentally appropriate. Often, teens love seeing their parents react to these new values negatively. Once the parents have a negative reaction, the teen will double down on the value and use it as a way to differentiate themselves from the parent.
Why do they do this?
Parents, it does not matter what the teens say their values are while they are this age. You must play the long game here. By the time they are 30, the majority of them will wake up and realize they have the same values as you do. You do not need to lecture or drill them into your worldview.
We can not transfer all of our values to our teens. However, we can place them in situations where they discover their values on their own.
Things you can say in response to teen value testing:
Ways we can support teens in maturing their value systems: